I don’t remember ever calling
my father any title but “Daddy.” I felt close to him as a child growing up in
the western part of the capital city. He is in all my early photos, Mother
being the one behind the bulky, black
Kodak box. I recall it was Daddy who taught me how to ride a bike, Daddy who
gave me driving lessons at age seventeen, Daddy who handed me money for a new vinyl record, or a Hit Parade song
magazine. Daddy who took me to his work when he was on duty as a telegrapher nights.
He and Mother were
disciplinarians. He wielded the switch, which I had to bring in from the yard.
His voice was as firm as the lashings on my legs. Not powerful for welts to rise;
enough pressure to remember my misbehavior. A switch sat on top of the fridge
through my teen years, though never used. A reminder I wasn’t too old.
I recall Daddy’s fun times
when I began to date. He inspected every guy who came for me, insisting on making “small
talk” while I delayed leaving the bedroom. He checked out the young men’s
handshake, hair and shoes. When a handshake was limp, the date got a minute of
instruction plus a reminder that a firm handshake gives a good impression. He didn’t embarrass the kid about his dusty
shoes, or his unkempt hair, but he let me know his preference. Daddy’s shoes
sparkled as new. He never had much hair, but in those days a teen’s hair wasn’t
to fall the face, but smoothed back with Brylcream.
He loved to tell jokes he’d
read or heard in Sunday School. They were corny to me. My problem was I was too
serious, like Mother, to enjoy the fun he shared with us. His humor heightened
when he beat me to the ringing telephone in the evenings. In a serious voice he
said, “Hello, State Prison, Warden speaking.” I writhed with embarrassment,
jerking the receiver before a hang-up. No pleading stopped his fun. I miss that
now
Daddy kept himself in good form by exercising daily with bars and weights he bought back in the 1940s. A slim man standing no more than 5 feet 7 inches, the bit of hair he had in his youth disappeared by age 40. An industrious worker, he repainted the family dwelling every four years, maintained a neat lawn with a garden blooming with irises, and the car washed and waxed for his and Mother’s Sunday-go-to-church ride. He cleaned the house interior religiously, leaving the kitchen and laundry duties to Mother. Our floors and furniture shined. He took pride in what he and Mother had acquired by steady work. They married in 1931 during hard times. We were a family of four. Daddy never got a son, but that didn’t seem to bother him. His four grandsons made up for that earlier loss.
Daddy kept himself in good form by exercising daily with bars and weights he bought back in the 1940s. A slim man standing no more than 5 feet 7 inches, the bit of hair he had in his youth disappeared by age 40. An industrious worker, he repainted the family dwelling every four years, maintained a neat lawn with a garden blooming with irises, and the car washed and waxed for his and Mother’s Sunday-go-to-church ride. He cleaned the house interior religiously, leaving the kitchen and laundry duties to Mother. Our floors and furniture shined. He took pride in what he and Mother had acquired by steady work. They married in 1931 during hard times. We were a family of four. Daddy never got a son, but that didn’t seem to bother him. His four grandsons made up for that earlier loss.
Daddy loved to dress up for
church. At work he wore grubby but clean clothes so his good clothes wouldn't be ruined. However, at home he wore a dark green apron over a red plaid flannel shirt in winter, and a cotton short-sleeved shirt in summer. I recall he loved the 1950 leisure suits. He had several in several colors. When he dressed in one he was our Dandy Daddy. His younger sister, Carolyn, reminded me that her brother always loved dressing well and that attracted the women. Daddy in his pre-marriage days was quite a ladies' man.
He was a tinkerer. After retirement he taught himself to work on
antique clocks. Just as he was cited a top telegrapher during WWII, he was
known in the Jackson area as the best repairer of clocks. He knew their souls. He heard their hearts beat.
One of our house rules was to leave a note on the living room carpet, so upon entering, whoever was
home first could see it. Daddy’s notes were usually in rhyme and often in rural dialect. What few foreign words he knew, he’d throw in here and there. An
example of his humor was at the end of a note Mother wrote me: Vivian, change the sheets and wash the dishes.
Get a quart of milk and a loaf of bread at the store before 5:00. Attached
to the note were these words:
And milk
the cow while you’re at it. Pa
That made me smile.
